"24 Male Contacts"... Conflicts of a Couple with Five Children, from Inter-floor Noise Assault to Trust Issues

The patterns of conflict in a couple who has been married for 8 years and has five children have been revealed. It has been confirmed that 27-year-old Kang Hyo-min, who lives in Jeongeup, and 27-year-old Kim Sang-hyeok, who works in production in the steel industry, previously appeared on the program 'Teenage Parents'.

The Complex Family History of a Twenty-Seven-Year-Old Couple... Five Children and Diverging Parenting Methods

The two met at a hospital during their high school years. Kim Sang-hyeok stated that he first met Kang Hyo-min at the hospital when he was hospitalized with a fracture during his high school years. At that time, Kang was raising her first child alone, and after becoming an adult, Kim confessed to Kang again, and they began living together and continuing their relationship. The two had their third child around July 2019 and currently have five children. The eldest is 14 years old and in the first year of middle school, meaning the couple has a middle school student child at the age of 27.

Differences in views on parenting were revealed in the family's daily life. Kim works 12-hour shifts to provide for the family, but Kang is experiencing conflict with her husband regarding the upbringing of the children. In particular, the issue of the children's smartphone use emerged as a major point of contention. Kang mentioned that she allows the children to use smartphones to prevent them from being noisy, but it was captured that despite limits being set on the children's smartphone usage time, the actual usage time remains long. Kim expressed difficulty regarding the situation where the children focus on their smartphones even after he returns from work and do not look for him. Kang explained that although the children's smartphone usage time is limited to 2 hours, because she dislikes the children being noisy, if she unlocks the phones, a situation occurs where the children watch smartphones for up to 10 hours after he returns from work.

Assault Fine Due to Inter-floor Noise Conflict and Cracks in Trust

The couple's conflict extended beyond parenting to friction with neighbors. Kang revealed that while living in an apartment in the past, she had conflicts with neighbors due to inter-floor noise issues, and in this process, she was sentenced to a fine for assault for an action where she used crutches to push away a neighbor who was forcibly holding the neighbor's front door. She explained that the fine was initially 500,000 won, but it was increased to 1 million won during the process of Kang resisting because she did not accept the result. Kim pointed out that despite continuous complaints from neighbors about the children running, Kang shows a defensive attitude toward the neighbors' complaints rather than controlling the children. In particular, even though the neighbor works as a bus driver and needs sleep, Kang showed a stance of accepting the neighbor's complaints as stress rather than educating the children on the rules of living in a multi-unit housing complex.

Trust issues between the couple also surfaced. According to what was confirmed in the video, it appeared that 24 male contacts are stored in Kang's phone. Kim stated that he deleted all female contacts stored in his phone when they began living together in the past, but questions were raised regarding the trust relationship between the couple as circumstances were mentioned that Kang has continued contact with men. Kim expressed anxiety regarding his wife's such behavior and past actions.

Expert Advice and Tasks for Relationship Recovery

The video contains the process of mediating the couple's conflict. Kim claimed that his wife's attitude is consistently full of excuses and rationalizations, pointing out her lack of responsibility regarding parenting. In particular, opinions were presented that the behaviors shown by Kang while caring for the children are inappropriate in terms of multi-unit housing living and child education. The couple is currently in the process of seeking expert help to resolve the conflict, and whether they can recover their relationship in the future will be an important variable in their lives.