Singer SOYOU offers blunt dating advice to viewers of all ages

Singer SOYOU addressed dating concerns from teenagers to people in their 30s in a new video on her YouTube channel 'SOYOUGI'. While encouraging 20-somethings to be more active, she advised those in their 30s who feel no desire to date to simply enjoy being single.

Singer SOYOU provided blunt advice while listening to the dating concerns of viewers. In this video released through SOYOU's YouTube channel 'SOYOUGI', dating worries sent in by various age groups from their teens to their 30s were addressed.

To set a sweet atmosphere for the consultation, SOYOU prepared bread from Jang Beullangjel. As the counseling continued, different concerns from each generation followed, and SOYOU expressed her opinions on each story with her characteristic honest and straightforward attitude.

Teenage concerns from crushes to breakups

The concerns of teenage submitters focused mainly on fresh emotions and clumsy breakups. To a teenager feeling jealous of the relationships surrounding a person they like, SOYOU advised, "You have much more of life left to live," suggesting a simple method: "Confess first, and then say what you want to say." For a student who ruins a crush because they find it difficult to talk to males, she offered the tip, "You don't need to think of them as a man; start with everyday conversations like entering high school or talking about idols you like."

On the other hand, she offered a cold diagnosis for a story about a breakup caused by a partner's change of heart just before a 200-day anniversary. To a submitter who learned that the partner confessed to someone else immediately after the breakup, SOYOU defined the person as a "bad man" and comforted them, saying, "This kind of experience is also a process of becoming an adult." To soothe the sadness of a breakup, SOYOU mentioned healing through music, citing songs such as Resignation or songs by Big Mama as examples.

20s dating theory: "It won't happen if you stay home"

For submitters in their 20s, SOYOU emphasized a more realistic and active attitude. To a submitter in their late 20s who finds dating difficult because they have no male friends around, she suggested, "It is good to be introduced by a female friend or to attend various gatherings such as running, gym, reading, or wine tasting." In particular, she encouraged an active attitude, stating, "A boyfriend won't appear if you just stay home. You have to go out and move."

To a submitter wondering if they should start dating despite a busy daily life, she encouraged dating using the metaphor, "Even in wartime, babies are born." Adding her personal experience, SOYOU said, "It is a shame that I didn't date much in my 20s," and noted that experiencing both good and bad people helps in choosing a good spouse later. To those worried about hurting their partner, she said, "Love yourself before others, and just try your best not to cause hurt."

30s dating and avoidant relationships: "If you like being single, enjoy it"

To a submitter in their 30s who feels no desire to date, SOYOU replied, "Enjoy the life of a single person." Her position is that if one is not lonely and has no desire to date, there is no need to force a relationship. However, if the lack of desire is because there is no one interesting nearby, she advised, "Your prime years are too precious, so try looking out toward a wider world."

Finally, she took a firm stance regarding a story about a "avoidant-type" boyfriend who avoids contact or hides whenever things get difficult. SOYOU pointed out, "That is frustrating," noting that "at the very least, it is basic to convey your state, such as saying 'I'll contact you in a little bit' or 'I'm angry, so let's talk later,'" suggesting that one could consider a breakup if the relationship cannot be managed.

Source: original video (YouTube)