"Eating [medicine] because of you"... Remarks from a girlfriend struggling with emotional regulation

Diverging conversations occurred among the cast members regarding the emotional outbursts that arise in romantic relationships and where the responsibility lies. According to the footage of the 15th episode of the JTBC variety program 'Love War', one of the cast members mentioned her issues with emotional regulation and the impact it has on her partner.

"Mood becomes attitude"... Expressing difficulty in emotional regulation

The cast member in the video confessed that when she gets angry, her irritation level rises steadily, causing her to lash out immensely at her partner until her mood improves. The cast member revealed that she finds it so difficult that even she suffers to the point of having a headache because her emotions are not controlled, explaining that this process leads to situations where she uses profanity or pours her emotions out onto her partner. In particular, she mentioned that even though she is aware that her mood should not become her attitude, she sometimes finds herself in a state where it is difficult to control herself. The cast member even shed tears while lamenting that it is hard for her because her emotions do not behave as she wishes.

Conflict between suggesting treatment and shifting responsibility

For the cast member experiencing difficulty with emotional regulation, her partner suggested hospital treatment and taking medication. According to the video, the partner suggested a hospital visit to understand the cast member's condition and expressed a willingness to support the related costs with approximately 500,000 to 800,000 won. In response, the cast member stated that the reason she began taking medication stems from her relationship with her partner, making a remark to the effect that she is taking it because of him since she started taking the medicine after meeting him. This continued the flow of conversation as it appeared to shift the cause of the emotional regulation issues onto the partner.

The position of the partner, reduced to an emotional trash can

During this conversation, the partner's position was revealed. While the cast member spoke to the effect that the reason she takes medicine is because she does not want to endure her partner's irritation, the partner suggested that enduring such irritation is not an obligation. As the situation repeated where the cast member could not release her emotions no matter how hard she tried, the partner expressed the position that she felt as though she was being treated as the boyfriend's emotional trash can. The conversation developed by pointing out the issue of emotional exhaustion within the relationship that occurs during the process of absorbing the emotions poured out by the partner.