"A 500,000 Won Bill to Get It Back"... The Deprivation and Economic Conflict of a Mother and Son Separated for 16 Years

The story of a family entangled in mutual resentment and issues of economic responsibility has been revealed. According to a video from tvN STORY's 'Lee Ho-seon's Counseling Center', a 31-year-old soccer instructor son and his mother, who has been cleaning up the son's economic accidents, appeared to reveal the conflict within the family.

"Over 100 Million Won Spent"... Repeated Economic Accidents and Personal Rehabilitation

In the video, the mother stated that the costs she incurred while cleaning up the accidents caused by her son exceed 100 million won. During his past military service, the son borrowed a friend's identity to open a mobile phone line and was defrauded, resulting in a loss of approximately 4 million won; subsequently, he spent about 30 million won solely on rehabilitation costs due to a motorcycle accident. Furthermore, repeated expenses occurred, such as causing another accident with a vehicle purchased after finding employment.

In particular, regarding the loan issue, the son directly mentioned to his mother that his total loan amount reaches 70 million won. The son is currently undergoing personal rehabilitation procedures as he feels difficulty in the process of repaying about 40 million won in loans. The mother expressed her distress regarding the situation where the son promised to deposit 500,000 won every month for living expenses, but deposits it irregularly or stops altogether.

16 Years of Absence and Lack of Emotional Care

Behind the family conflict lay an absence of emotional bonding during the growing-up process. From the age of four until he turned twenty, the son grew up in various places, including his aunt's house, a female relative's house, and dormitories, for about 16 years. The mother could not care for the children directly because she had to work for a living, and the son revealed that the emotional distance was so great that he could not even tell his mother about his experience of being beaten by his older brothers during his growing years.

In the video, counselor Lee Ho-seon pointed out that while the mother has expressed love through economic support, sufficient emotional care was not provided. The analysis suggests that the 500,000 won monthly deposit requested by the mother from her son is ultimately acting like a 'bill' for her past support. In a sentence completion test, the son showed respect for his mother by answering, 'My mother is a great person,' yet during the actual conversation, he showed a pattern of repeated conflict.

Advice for a Family Lacking Decision-Makers

During the counseling process, the psychological characteristics of the family members were also analyzed. The son showed a low autonomy score, feeling difficulty in making decisions for himself, while the mother was found to have high autonomy. Counselor Lee Ho-seon diagnosed that this family only holds each other accountable, but lacks individuals who act as subjects capable of making their own decisions.

The counselor suggested to the mother that instead of calling her son a 'troublemaker,' she should provide positive encouragement for his future. The video also captured the son expressing his feelings toward his mother, opening the door to conversation.