"Visit the father-in-law with assets first"... Advice given regarding worries over holiday visit order

Ahead of the holidays, realistic concerns involving the order of family visits and inheritance issues were shared. In a recently released video from the YouTube channel 'Dongchimi', a story was featured regarding a father-in-law who forces a specific visit order using inheritance as a pretext, and a daughter-in-law caught in the middle.

Holiday visit order tied to inheritance conditions

According to the story introduced in the video, after the parents-in-law divorced, the father-in-law remarried and is living his life, while the mother-in-law lives alone. The storyteller reported that during the first holiday after the divorce, they visited the mother-in-law's house, who was living alone, first; however, the remarried father-in-law expressed dissatisfaction, stating that he could not pass on his assets if they did not visit him first in the future. Due to this, the storyteller shared that they were unable to visit their own parents at all for the past four years because they had to walk on eggshells around the in-laws. For this Chuseok, the storyteller asked the cast members for their opinions on whether they should first visit the remarried father-in-law who has assets, the mother-in-law who has no assets, or their own parents, whom they have been waiting to visit for four years.

Proposed visit order suggested "for the son's convenience"

Regarding the story, the cast members suggested solutions based on their own experiences. One cast member made a suggestion considering the husband's position in a situation where the daughter-in-law must take care of both sets of parents. The intent was that visiting the father-in-law with assets first could ultimately be a direction that makes life easier for the son. In particular, for the mother-in-law, considering the situation where ancestral rites (charye) must be performed on the day of the holiday, a method was suggested to visit her the day before the holiday to have dinner together. This was presented as a compromise to avoid making the mother-in-law feel alienated while still being able to visit the father-in-law's house, where the rites are held, on the actual day.

The cast members also mentioned that care must be taken so that this visit order does not become known to others and cause unnecessary misunderstandings. Opinions converged that the way to reduce conflict is to carry out the schedule naturally without making it obvious that they visited the mother-in-law's house in advance. The video concluded with the cast members singing 'My Motherland' together, wishing happiness to viewers welcoming the holidays.