"Are children weapons?"... Husband's custody threats and wife's confession on 'Divorce Camp'

In the JTBC entertainment program 'Divorce Camp', which deals with conflicts and recovery between couples, a case of a husband who pressured his wife using child custody as a weapon and committed verbal abuse is causing a stir.

"You'll never see the kids"… The attitude of a husband using custody as a weapon

In the released video, the wife revealed that her husband is using their children as a means of custody threats. According to the wife's statement, in conflict situations, the husband has pressured her in ways such as saying, "I will take the children," and "You'll never see the children." The wife added that she had to prepare to protect herself, such as receiving legal consultation, to respond to the husband's attitude.

The husband mentioned the wife's attitude as the background for such behavior. In the video, regarding the situation where the wife does not listen to him, the husband showed an attitude of saying things like "Do whatever you want" or "See how it feels," suggesting that this was an emotional response stemming from a lack of communication with his wife and conflict with his mother-in-law. In particular, the husband caused controversy by mentioning that he neglected the situation during the last three weeks when the wife was doing all the childcare alone, with the intention of "Let's see how hard it is for you."

Repeated verbal abuse and controversy over childcare neglect

The couple's conflict was found to have escalated beyond simple differences of opinion into the issue of verbal abuse. The wife confessed to hearing "foul language" from her husband and expressed her feelings at the time, stating she felt miserable due to his verbal abuse. The wife pointed out that his words and actions fell outside the scope of everyday conversation, saying, "I have never heard foul language anywhere, but I hear it from my husband."

Conflicts regarding parenting methods were also revealed in detail. The wife disclosed an anecdote where, ahead of a trip with a friend's couple, the husband tried to leave the second child in her care, asking, "My legs hurt so I can't drink alcohol, so why are we going?" The wife claimed that instead of looking after the child, the husband prioritizes his own convenience and tends to treat childcare as the wife's responsibility rather than a joint responsibility.

Lack of communication and difference in values

The cast members participating on-site expressed concern about the couple's way of communicating. During the conversation in the video, the husband strongly showed conviction that his logic was correct, and it was captured that communication with his wife was not taking place. One cast member criticized the husband's attitude of insisting only on his own opinion and not accepting the wife's position, saying, "I wonder how great an achievement he has made to be so certain that only he is right."

As such, the appearance of the couple experiencing complex conflicts including custody threats, verbal abuse, and childcare neglect leaves implications in that it shows the collapse of the power structure and communication within the household beyond a simple marital fight.