"Must settle things even for the children" Oh Eun-young's final advice to a married couple

Advice has been delivered recommending the termination of a relationship and a responsible conclusion to a couple who have continued to conflict while hurting each other for a long time.

On MBC's 'Oh Eun-young Report - Marriage Hell', the case of a couple who has experienced conflict for a long period was used to address whether to continue the relationship and the subsequent responsibilities. In the video, Dr. Oh Eun-young specified that the two people's married life is already a finished connection, emphasizing that realistic settlement and responsibility must take priority over simple reconciliation.

"Married life is already a finished connection" Declaration of the end of the relationship

Dr. Oh Eun-young diagnosed the couple's relationship, stating, "The married life of these two is already a finished connection." She analyzed that the divorce the wife desired in the past is no different from having already occurred when considering the husband's heart and the status on paper. Accordingly, she presented the opinion that instead of efforts to restore the relationship, the focus should be on how to finalize the remaining tasks.

In particular, she clarified the locus of responsibility regarding economic issues. She pointed out that the wife's joint guarantee on the husband's debt, and the debts the wife borrowed from others during the process of running a restaurant, are areas that the two must take responsibility for and settle together. This means that the termination of the relationship does not merely end with an emotional breakup, but must be accompanied by the settlement of realistic debt relationships.

A choice for the children, "There will be a chance to return only if the hurting stops"

Dr. Oh Eun-young also gave stern advice regarding the impact of the couple's conflict on their children. Mentioning the pain experienced by the children of the couple, who are currently in a state of divorce, as they witness the continuous conflict of their parents, she warned that if the parents fail to clearly settle the relationship, the children may even lose the chance to return to their parents' side.

Furthermore, she pointed out that the unhappy relationship of the parents can cause emotional deficiencies that extend beyond the children to the generation of grandchildren. Dr. Oh emphasized that they must "live while deeply reflecting for a lifetime about the sadness and pain the children experience, and about the lack of memories," and stressed that they must feel responsibility for the wounds they gave to their children as parents.

Beware of the attitude of "Covering the past and only looking at the future"

She demanded a specific change in attitude from the husband, who wants to restore his relationship with his children. Dr. Oh Eun-young explained that simply covering up past mistakes and talking only about the future with an attitude like "I will do well from now on" can disappoint the children.

She made it clear that the possibility of children reaching out first is low, and advised that only by showing certain reflection on past mistakes and a changed appearance can the closed hearts of the children open even slightly. The core of this report is that both the husband and wife need a process of sincerely apologizing for the wounds they gave to each other and lightening their emotional burdens.