Lee Su-na reveals living in common-law marriage after past marital conflicts

Broadcaster Lee Su-na revealed on the YouTube channel Dongchimi that she and her husband have reunited after five years but currently live in a common-law marriage. Reflecting on intense past disputes that involved breaking household items, she warned that careless words during marital conflicts can act like daggers that destroy relationships.

A warning has been issued that a single careless word uttered during peak marital conflict can act as a dagger that destroys a relationship. Broadcaster Lee Su-na reflected on her past experiences of intense marital disputes, opening up about the types of words to avoid in order to maintain a marital relationship.

"Words thrown with divorce in mind"... Lee Su-na's 'War of the Roses'

In a recent broadcast of the YouTube channel Dongchimi, cast members shared various episodes related to marital fights to build empathy. During this time, Lee Su-na confessed to the intense conflict she experienced with her husband in the past. While Lee Su-na has a personality with clear highs and lows, she reported that her husband's emotions were always the same, which sometimes made her feel like she was going crazy. She explained that her husband's indifferent attitude sometimes fueled her anger.

In particular, Lee Su-na revealed an anecdote where, in a moment of anger so intense she was prepared for divorce, she sent her husband a text message containing harsh language. At the time, her husband was flustered by the coarse words and mentioned marital etiquette, but Lee Su-na explained how desperate the situation was. When fights intensified, they clashed to the point of damaging household items, such as breaking veranda glass or causing chandeliers to fall. Lee Su-na described this as a "War of the Roses," adding that there were intense disputes where the wife would smash objects and the husband would smash the wife's shoes.

Lee Su-na cited "mountain climbing" as their unique way of resolving such conflicts. She stated that no matter how severely they fight, they keep the rule of climbing Bukhansan together on weekends. She explained that after passing through rugged cliff paths and reaching the summit to face great nature, their minds are purified to the point where they forget even the reason they fought. A specific process was also shared, where they naturally create an atmosphere for reconciliation by eating together next to a valley after descending.

"Just earn money well" vs "Get out of my house"... Taboo words between spouses

The broadcast also continued with a discussion regarding "taboo words" that should never be said during marital fights. Based on survey results, the cast members identified words that cause hurt to one another.

The third most common phrase was "Just earn money well." It was noted that this is a phrase wives mainly say to husbands, which can act as a dagger by lowering the husband's self-esteem. The second was "Get out of my house," mentioning aggressive language that pushes the partner away using the living space as a medium. The number one phrase to be most careful of was words that poke at the partner's family or in-laws, such as "Is that how your family taught you?" This was cited as the most dangerous remark that triggers conflict between in-laws and one's own family.

Lee Su-na mentioned the moment she once decided to divorce, revealing that while they have reunited, they maintain a legal divorce status and live in a common-law marriage. Through remarks to the effect of "I don't want to put on shackles again," she suggested that she chose the current way of maintaining a practical relationship over the past method of legal union. Lee Su-na added that they reunited after five years but are living in a common-law state without re-linking their family registers.

Fighting in front of children and the role of parents

The conversation continued regarding the impact of marital conflict on children. Lee Su-na mentioned the anxiety children feel when they witness their parents fighting. She explained that it is a common scene for children to watch the atmosphere, such as going into their rooms to study while the couple bickers. Lee Su-na shared an anecdote of her youngest, Gyu-hyeon, who is six and seven years old, watching ballet in his older brothers' room during a parental fight.

Lee Su-na recalled memories of watching her parents fight in a single room during her childhood, suggesting that this can lead to psychological anxiety after becoming an adult. She emphasized that marital disputes are not merely a problem between two people but are directly linked to the emotional environment of the children, reflecting on how the communication methods in a marital relationship are vital to the stability of the entire family.

Source: original video (YouTube)