Ahn So-hee rejects long-distance relationships with infrequent contact

During a recent Sotube counseling session, Ahn So-hee stated that contacting a partner only once every month or three months does not constitute a romantic relationship, especially in long-distance scenarios where such behavior makes it impossible to maintain trust.

Set against an outdoor backdrop with an autumnal atmosphere, Ahn So-hee faced realistic dating concerns from her subscribers. Ahn decorated an outdoor space at a production company's office to resemble an outdoor eatery, opening a "Counseling Center" accompanied by seasonal gizzard shad and Ilpum Jinro. Expressing excitement for the outdoor shoot, Ahn noted that the autumn weather was wonderful and explained the setting by mentioning that her previous session sharing squid sashimi at Jin's house was fun and well-received by Sotube subscribers.

"Sustainable values are more important than looks"... From the perilla leaf debate to balance games

Before beginning the formal counseling, Ahn livened up the mood with a balance game regarding dating values. When asked about priorities in a relationship, Ahn ranked them in the following order: personality, family harmony, appearance, and financial power. While not saying she ignores appearance entirely, she prioritized personality and harmony, stating, "Appearance is not sustainable and everyone becomes the same as they age." She specifically highlighted the importance of family harmony, noting that getting along well with a partner's family makes conversation easier.

Regarding the "perilla leaf debate"—a scenario where a partner helps a friend peel a perilla leaf—she showed a decisive yet flexible attitude. Regarding a situation where a boyfriend peels a leaf for a friend, she responded, "If he just held it for her, it would be fine. To actually peel it is just having good sense," suggesting she could understand the behavior if it were something the person does for someone they like. However, she drew a line at unnecessary hovering, stating, "Doing it when it's not necessary is not okay."

On the other hand, when asked to choose between someone who dated seven people in one year versus someone in a seven-year relationship, she expressed disappointment toward the former, saying it felt like "just enjoying the excitement and ending it." She voiced regret regarding relationships that lack the effort to adjust and grow with a partner through spending time together.

"Living with a single parent with a child requires you to be completely okay with it"

The first in-depth story sent by a subscriber was from a woman in her 20s considering living with a man in his 30s who is a single parent. The storyteller expressed anxiety regarding the fact that the partner has a child and the possibility of marriage through cohabitation. After breaking up with a boyfriend of five years who was the same age, she felt a sense of stability with an older colleague met at work due to their compatible conversation and tastes, but was troubled by the fact that he has a child from a previous marriage.

Ahn offered realistic advice in response. While noting that cohabitation itself is fine to experience, she emphasized that regarding the issue of the partner's child, "you must truly understand that part before meeting them." She made it clear that if she cannot fully accept the situation, it will not be good for herself, the partner, or the child. She pointed out that the core issue is that she must be entirely okay with how she treats the partner's child.

"Is contacting once a month a relationship?" Blunt rebuke for story of 'ghosting' partner

In the following consultation, a story was introduced about a person in a long-distance relationship of six years whose partner disappears for periods ranging from one month to as long as a year. The storyteller struggled with whether to continue the relationship amidst trust and anxiety. The main content of the story was the anxiety felt while waiting when the partner is unreachable.

Ahn expressed strong negation regarding this story. "I do not think contacting someone once every month or once every three months constitutes a romantic relationship," Ahn said, pointing out that in a long-distance relationship where communication is vital, such a situation makes it impossible to maintain trust. She specifically noted that "if you are constantly anxious from the position of waiting for contact, you are already failing to maintain the relationship properly," highlighting that the partner's behavior could be considered rude to a lover. Furthermore, she expressed difficulty understanding a situation where someone is unreachable for a month or a year in this day and age.

Source: original video (YouTube)