"I was a manager and a watcher, not a parent"... Realizing the mistakes of discipline through a child's scream

A participant, who defined the role of a parent as a 'manager' or 'watcher' while focusing on their child's achievements and grades, reflected on past disciplinary methods and shared the changed family relationships.

In a video released on the YouTube channel 'Dongchimi' on the 20th, the cast members were shown sharing their experiences regarding communication styles and disciplinary methods within their respective homes. The participant in the video mentioned an experience where she scolded her child by comparing their grades to her own family members, confessing that at that time, she was performing the role of instructing and monitoring the child rather than being a parent.

"I felt that suicide might not be someone else's story" — the child's scream

The participant recalled the conflict she experienced during the period when her child was preparing for the high school equivalency exam after dropping out of school. She stated that during a time of economic hardship due to her husband's business bankruptcy, she became angry and scolded the child for not solving workbooks properly. The participant reported that when she returned from a business trip, she witnessed the child locking the door, wailing loudly, throwing things, and screaming.

The participant said that seeing such a reaction from her child made her think that suicide might not be someone else's story. Taking this as an opportunity, she revealed that she realized she had never given sincere praise to her children, and instead of making eye contact and communicating with empathy, she had only checked things that needed to be verified, such as homework or exams. The participant defined herself as a 'manager' and a 'watcher' rather than a parent.

After writing a letter of apology and making efforts, "Mom, I respect you the most"

The participant stated that she has been striving for change following this realization. She even publicly revealed her mistakes by writing a letter of apology reflecting on her past errors, which was published as a book. The participant explained that she went through countless efforts and studies with the mindset of changing every single cell in her body.

As a result of going through this process of endurance, she added that their relationship has been restored to the point where her children say they respect their mother the most in the world. Even ahead of her appearance, the participant shared the process of her efforts to improve family relationships, worrying about things like being soft-spoken or slow.