"Feeling like living with a daughter-in-law"... Real confessions of mothers-in-law between holidays and childcare

In a recently released video from the YouTube channel 'Dongchimi', the cast members gathered to share various episodes they experienced regarding mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, childcare, and holidays. Based on their own experiences, the cast members shared the conflicts and realistic concerns that arise between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.

"Please watch the child" Repeated requests for childcare help and differences in methods

The cast members in the video mentioned the generational differences in values that arise during the process of helping with childcare. One cast member shared a situation where a daughter-in-law left the child in her care without prior notice, explaining that an 11-year-old eldest child was left to look after a one-year-old and a five-year-old. At that time, the daughter-in-law left the children to go out and did not return until late, revealing the psychological burden felt by the mother-in-law in this process.

Differences in opinion regarding childcare methods were also discussed. One cast member said that while looking after a nephew, she was shocked by the different childcare standards compared to her own generation when she saw the daughter-in-law feeding the child according to the method she had set. In particular, the gap was mentioned between the way of being careful about bacteria in the mouth when feeding a child and the way of feeding food by chewing it as in previous generations. Regarding this, the cast members shared opinions that once a child is left in someone's care, one should respect the other person's childcare method to some extent.

"Wake-up time 3 PM"... Living with a daughter-in-law different from imagination

The cast members empathized that while people often expect a "daughter-like daughter-in-law," the actual reality is different from expectations. One cast member shared an experience where, perhaps due to the habit of the person who would become the daughter-in-law living alone in Busan during their dating period before marriage, she drank until dawn and did not wake up until 3 PM while staying at the in-laws' house. In this process, while other family members started their daily routines early in the morning, the embarrassing situation caused by the daughter-in-law's late wake-up time was described.

Additionally, conflicts arising during the process of entrusting childcare to a mother's own mother were addressed. One cast member mentioned that she thought about wanting to entrust the child to her mother-in-law, citing situations where her own mother unilaterally notified her of childcare schedules or requested additional childcare costs as the child's weight increased. However, she also showed hesitation due to hygiene issues or differences in personal tendencies that arise when a mother-in-law feeds the child.

Unexpected situations on holidays and keeping distance in mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships

Holidays were identified as a major point where conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are expressed. One cast member shared a case where, in a situation where housework was piled up like a mountain to prepare holiday food, the daughter-in-law went out claiming she had urgent work at the company and returned late in the evening after drinking. This episode suggested issues of family etiquette and division of roles that occur during holidays.

A cast member who had declared she would be a "cool mother-in-law" to avoid such conflicts said that she realized that declaring she would not interfere at too early a stage could actually become a problem later while conducting recent broadcasts. The cast members revealed the complex psychology of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, mentioning that when a son's personality changes after his children marry, one might feel the urge to attribute the cause to the daughter-in-law rather than the son.